Slow it Down (Dec 2013)


BBI_beeOn Friday afternoon my husband said “Should I take you for a pizza tonight?” My younger self would have replied “Don’t worry I have already worked out what we are eating for supper.”

My older, wiser self said “Thank you that sounds great!” And so we enjoyed a lovely evening at an Italian restaurant that someone had recommended just the day before.

The gap between my younger and older selves has been filled with e-mail and Facebook circulated prose reminding us to eat ice cream and wear the fancy lingerie stored in tissue paper at the bottom of the drawer. It has been punctuated by the very real experiences of losing friends and loved ones, reinforcing how unpredictable life is. So nowadays I try to be more flexible, to accept gifts in all forms and to grab opportunities as they arise.

I just wish I’d learned sooner. So I could now be wearing that beautiful tanzanite stone hubby wanted to buy me at the very beginning of our relationship!

Stop the Headlong Race to Year End

Since October I hear people saying things like ‘there’s less than three months to Christmas’, ‘now the crazy season begins’, ‘I have only ten days till we close’. I hate that way of speaking. I try to avoid hearing or reading it. It serves no positive purpose. It creates stress and makes people feel overwhelmed. And whilst we talk about having so little time, time marches on. As our stress levels rise we become more disorganised, less focused and less and less gets done … and time marches on.

The irony is that the more we talk and stress about having little time, the less we enjoy what we do have, and the faster it seems to go by. It wastes our life. No matter what we do time keeps moving but we have the choice to have each minute be full and meaningful.

Even if you are counting down the days to going on holiday you are still wasting the days between now and the holiday. If you knew you only had a few days left to live would you be as careless with them?

Like everything there is a balance. If you live only in the moment you would find yourself “on holiday” but with nowhere to stay, or in a meeting without your documents. Things that require some advance actions require planning for. But once we have planned when to do the preparation we can let go of it and focus on what we are doing right now. And try to find joy in whatever that may be.

Do the same if you are on holiday. Appreciate each moment and each day without thinking about the end of the holiday.

We only have 525 600 minutes in each year. Let’s enjoy each one we have, with whoever we are fortunate enough to have in our lives.
Carpe Diem.

I wish all of you a joyful and healthy festive season and great new beginnings for 2014.



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